by Tara Joyce | Jan 2, 2012 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
As the new year unfolds before me, I’ve spent time reflecting on the year that passed, and how I will grow in 2012.
What was in 2011…
What were some of your favourite moments?
- Being with Daniel (my husband) looking out over the lights of downtown Toronto from 50 stories up while a snow storm blew outside
- Meeting Jack (my dog) for the first time
- Taking Jack to the park for the first time
- Signing my first car lease
- Landing on Big Island (Hawaii)
What challenged you?
- My confidence
- Being a true partner
- Not caretaking
- My performance anxiety
- Being a loving and supportive to myself
- Breaking old patterns
How did you spend your time?
- Writing
- Designing
- Supporting
- Reading
- Walking
- Travelling
- Singing
- Practicing yoga
What are you proud of?
- My happiness
- My family
- My work
What did you learn?
- It’s not you, it’s me
- Why I need to not fix things
- Why I need love and support
- How to let you, and it, be
- To trust and respect my instincts completely
What changed?
- I see myself more clearly
- I feel more confident
- I feel more supported and supportive
- My boundaries are stronger
- I see my personal history clearly
- I am a doggy mummy
- I have my own (car) ride
- I’ve experienced Hawaii
Who was significant in your life?
- My teachers/coaches/mentors: Teya, Ivy, Christine and Bill
- My family
- My friends
- My clients
What were you loving this year?
- My love
- My strength
- My patience
- My clarity
- The positive growth around me
What will you be glad to leave behind?
- Loud neighbours
- Flimsy boundaries
- A dog-free existence
- Self imposed restrictions
What do you want to remember?
- Who I am
- Why I am beautiful
- What I need
What do you wish to celebrate?
In one word, 2011 was the year of… ?
And casting a little into 2012…
What do you want more of?
- Love
- Confidence
- Meaningful Words
- Abundance
- Adventure
How do you want to grow?
- Be more accepting and supportive of my art
- Practice and fortify my boundaries and confidence
- Become a more awesome writer
- Be a better listener, and less of a fixer
- Feel FREE TO SHINE
What word will you choose to guide you through this year?
What do you want to be celebrating next December?
- An abundantly joyful and adventure-filled year
The lovely Creativity Coach Jamie Ridler included these questions for reflection and visioning in her December newsletter. Thank you for the inspiration and friendship, Jamie!
by Tara Joyce | Dec 24, 2011 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
Thank you for your love and support this year!
all my love,
by Tara Joyce | Dec 20, 2011 | Self/Business Growth
I used to be afraid of people stealing my ideas. I saw my ideas, the thoughts in my head, as something physical that someone could take from me.
I was terrified to share them. I was certain that if they weren’t stolen, then they would surely be scorned.
Clearly, it seemed, my ideas were not safe in the external world.
Everything is essentially an idea
Without knowing it, I’ve been sharing my ideas all along. In giving of my wealth, in doing what brings me joy, I had been extending my ideas.
Sharing my thoughts hasn’t diminished or killed them as I thought it would. Rather, it has allowed me to meet people who believed in my ideas, and the stronger they have grown.
To defend is to be attacked
By thinking I needed to protect my ideas, I was constraining them. In believing that they could be abused or stolen, I was encouraging them to be.
I was defending against something that wasn’t real. Always ready for the next attack. I was treating my ideas as something outside me, beyond my control.
I am the source of my ideas
They can not be controlled or taken by another.
My thoughts never really leave their source. In trusting this, I am freer to extend them.
Perhaps I now have the proof I need, for I see that in giving of my ideas, my self worth has amplified and a wealthly life is growing.
photo credit: that guy named rob
by Tara Joyce | Dec 14, 2011 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
I behave and you think it’s because of you.
You take my choices personally.
It’s not about you
My choices have nothing to do with you.
Even when they are in reaction to you.
How I behave is about me.
It’s my stuff
It’s about me. Despite what I might say.
Even when I tell you you’re not good enough.
It about me trying to control you, trying to mold you into what I think you should be.
It’s about what I think, what I want.
I want to impose my will. I want my control.
Don’t take on my stuff
Don’t react to me.
Don’t hurt your Self and take it personal.
Remember it’s not you, it’s me.
When it’s about you
You’ll know it. You’ll feel it.
For I’ll be giving to you the things you need.
Like love and support.
If I’m not offering those things, please believe me, it’s not you, it’s me.
photo credit: McWheelie
by Tara Joyce | Oct 31, 2011 | My Journey | What's On My Mind
This is the fourth installment of Christine and my monthly Peer-to-Peer Mentoring series. On her blog, I answered her question:
“Social optimization is at the heart of all my business endeavors. For this reason, any pitch I offer to a potential client is always authentic – I aim to reveal how working together will mutually accentuate their product, service and relationships with their potential customers and clients. Unlike many businesses that wait for clients to come to them, I approach clients to help them see the need for my specialized services.
What creative design ideas or tips can you suggest that will help make my pitch strategy more fun and multi-dimensional?”
My Question to My Mentor:
“I’ve never collected testimonials and I’m examining why? that is. Can you tell me how you received the testimonials you have collected, and how it felt to get them?”
Christine’s Answer:
Beginning to collect testimonials was a purely organic experience. A business development client of mine bestowed a very complimentary, but objective email upon me after we achieved a few really cool milestones within his business. At the end of the email he said, “hint, hint, hint… hope this will serve as the start to your new testimonial section on your website.” Of course, this felt amazing because I had not yet asked for my clients or patients to acknowledge their experiences of working with me. I was flattered and inspired to ask clients and patients to reflect after receiving this first one though!
I have always thought the word testimonial sounds cheesy. Most of the ones I would read on websites seemed quite contrived and lacking in objective feedback. I can clearly see the purpose they are meant to serve, but was never thrilled with the ones I came across. This definitely deterred me from including a testimonial section on my site.
I decided to take some of my own advice-if you don’t like it, fix it, re-frame it, make it more fun, create something more fitting or tangible for your own personal niche or personality. At the same time I decided I would create a space for feedback, I began jotting down different ideas of a fun title that would catch people’s eyes and get them to click away on the website. I came up with “Patient Raves” and “Client Raves” to avoid using that cheesy sounding word, testimonial.
Testimonials-They Go Both Ways
Conveniently, I had begun forging a solid cross-section of connections via LinkedIn. LinkedIn, for anyone who is on the fence-go for it-it is one of the most powerful tools to both provide and receive testimonials. I love LinkedIn because the platform offers a user friendly interface to politely request that a connection provide a recommendation of your experience working together. Once completed these recommendations appear on your profile for all of LinkedIn to see-another excellent way to create connections based on other professional evaluation.
Ask For What You Want Others To Understand And You Shall Receive… Over And Over Again
I knew feedback would triple as an invaluable tool for patients, clients and me! I also understood the key to creating a section of tangible feedback meant clearly asking respondents for particular objective information. Simply asking somebody to submit a testimonial without guidelines is likely what results in completely subjective feedback. While you of course hope they’ll sing your praises and say nice things about your personality, including the what, where, when, why and hows will create the most vivid picture to capture a new, potential client.
Make yourself a list of what you’d like others to understand about your work. What you offer, how you deliver it, if time lines are important-anything that makes you the one and only person who can create and deliver what the client needs. Then try developing a little script you can copy and paste as a request-just add the personal touches each time you make a request. I like to show my gratitude with personal feedback and an offer to provide a similar request if applicable.
And, how does it feel to ask? Empowering, humbling, inspirational… You’ll love doing this, your clients and potential clients will love you for doing it! Have fun! Can’t wait to see what amazing things folks have to say about you!
