by Tara Joyce | Nov 21, 2014 | Cultural Creativity
Helpful creative feedback is encouraging, sensitive, honest, and constructive.
Creating is an arduous process that employs your very heart and soul. It is an act that leaves you, the creator, totally vulnerable to those who experience your creation. Helpful creative feedback comes from honouring this sacred creative space and meeting you, the creator, in it.
Helpful creative feedback is sensitive to the fact that you are doing your best, that your creation is not perfect nor is intended to be, and that what you truly desire is the opportunity to grow, express, and improve.
Helpful creative feedback is not about what I would do if I were you, or about what I want your expression to say or represent. Helpful creative feedback is about helping your creation to grow.
That doesn’t mean my creative feedback can’t share my negative experiences of your creation, but if your expression should anger me, it’s my responsibility to understand why it does, before I attempt to share those feelings with you, the creator, or direct them at your creation. When I do decide to share my feedback, positive and/or negative, it becomes helpful when I share it constructively, communicating in a way I would want to be spoken to should I have chosen to put the time, energy, and love into something enough to birth it into this world. Helpful creative feedback requires empathy for the creator and for the creation.
The amount of help my creative feedback provides to you depends on the depth of understanding I have about my own experience, and about how it’s not THE TRUTH. My experience is simply my perspective, nothing more. It’s just one perspective for you and your creation to learn and grow from. It holds no more weight than that. With this knowledge and humility in hand, I can be truly helpful to you, and provide you with the sensitive, honest, and constructive feedback you really need to grow.
photo credit: Josh Ardle
by Tara Joyce | Nov 11, 2014 | Cultural Creativity
If the pain is going to be there either way, why would I choose to feel it?
If I feel it, I can actually heal it. If I don’t feel it, I can not know its true state, and I can not start to heal it.
Whether I like it or not, feeling my pain fully is necessary for my healing, for my whole-ing.
I can not reduce my pain when I don’t acknowledge it. I can not feel more whole and healed when I deny parts of my experience.
When I want to hide from my pain, I remember that in facing it, I start to heal it. Stuffing it down only guarantees I will hold onto these feelings longer.
My pain is inevitable but my suffering is optional.
So I practice feeling it and not fearing it. I practice believing I can face and handle my pain. And ever single time I do, I find I’m right.
photo credit: Lein C. Lau
by Tara Joyce | Nov 5, 2014 | Cultural Creativity, Self/Business Growth
It’s right. It’s wrong.
It’s neither.
It’s just an option. It’s just one way of doing things. It simply one way to approach something.
Take it and/or leave it.
It may be what I’ve done, and it may be what I’m doing, and it may be working for me, but it is still only one way of doing things.
Nothing more.
Take it and/or leave it. Be interested and/or think it’s bunk.
In the end, it’s simply what works for me, for now.
Nothing more.
The approach I am choosing is no more right or wrong than any other approach.
Take it and/or leave it.
Maybe my approach will work for you. Maybe it won’t. I can’t say for sure.
You know what’s best for you.
Take it and/or leave it. Be interested and/or think it’s bunk.
I am here, sharing my perspective on my experiences. And you are there, deciding what to do with them. You decide how much truth my perspective holds for you. You decide how much you’re learning.
It’s not about right or wrong. There’s no place for that here. In this space, it’s about possibility.
What’s possible for you?
photo credit: Dan Foy
by Tara Joyce | Oct 27, 2014 | Cultural Creativity, Pay What It's Worth Pricing
I like to think about money as an idea in the form of credit. To get in the money game, I need to build up my credit. To build up my credit, I need to work on my inner and outer relationship with my self and money.
My Outer Credit Work:
- identifying & communicating the value I offer (marketing my self and my business)
- growing my wealth (creating opportunities for higher pay and more abundance)
- caring for my wealth (managing my money and my self)
My Inner Credit Work:
- connecting with the value I offer and the abundance of wealth I possess (transforming my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, attitudes, and actions about money and my self)
As I practice with Pay What It’s Worth and not setting prices, I’m noticing the system naturally supports me in doing my inner and outer work. It supports me in clearly identifying where I still have work to do in improving the quality of my thoughts about my self and money. When I feel something isn’t working in my business and/or in an exchange with my customer, I have an opportunity for inner work and outer work. My business is a mirror for my relationship with my self and money, and my customer is a powerful guide in showing me what is working in this relationship, and what is not. My customer’s feedback and behaviour in our business exchange, and my satisfaction with it, highlights where my thoughts and actions are adding value and where they are not. How am I building my credit? How am I taking from it? If I don’t feel fairly valued, I explore how I am creating this imbalance in my relationship and I work to correct it.
Psychology is to money what an engine is to a car, and my motives, my drivers to action, determine my results. My thoughts about money determine where I go with it, the quality of my ride and my response, and how fast I travel. If I want to live and love abundantly, I must be working on thinking abundantly. As I work at increasing the quality of my thoughts, and in turn my actions, my wealth increases. As I learn to value my Self and how I am of service more wholly, my customer naturally does too. This is the work and the reward of building my credit.
photo credit: Matt Jiggens
by Tara Joyce | Oct 8, 2014 | Cultural Creativity
I make a difference by being what I am. I add value to my world by being the light I am, and by holding onto this light no matter what externally arrives to me.
To do this, I need to protect myself from the overwhelm of the external world. I need to protect who I truly am. I can not lose myself; and it’s important I acknowledge the force by which others may seem to want me to. I need ways to deal with the tension between taking care of my inner business and taking care of external affairs.
As a child, it could be hard to know what was right — the authority figure who wanted me to change, or the inner guru who knew I was as I needed to be. It was hard to know what defined my needs. Now as I grow, I am learning to better understand the contrast between my truth and the manufactured needs that keep me from it.
My truth is in my inner directive. My wisdom lies in staying connected to myself while pushing into the world. In holding my sense of self I have what I need to sense my way forward with confidence.
