by Tara Joyce | Apr 15, 2015 | Self/Business Growth
Do you ever get so addicted to the pain of something that you don’t want to break out of it? Have you ever felt so much pain and so consistently that you start to feel you deserve it — that it’s meant to be there? Have you ever stayed with your pain — not changing it, not empowering yourself?
When we do this, we make ourselves a victim of our pain. It’s selfish in the end. We’re so overwhelmed by our feelings of despair and unfairness that we forget our responsibility… to our self and others. We forget our responsibility to care about people and things outside our pain, including ourselves.
Our pain matters. It has a point. Its value lies in how we acknowledge it, learn from it, and grow from it. It is not something for us to simply accept and live with. We’ve got to have compassion for our Self. We’ve got to push for our joy.
photo credit: LL Twistiti
by Tara Joyce | Apr 2, 2015 | Innerpreneurship, Self/Business Growth
Not more than you are but as much as you are.
Not THE best but YOUR best.
You need to live up to your purpose, and you need to know you have exactly what it takes to do so. Being your best is an inside job. It’s yours to define and to design.
In the quest for more, it’s the desire to be the best that inevitably diminishes you, and your creative energy. For it’s simply not possible to attain. You can never be the best. However, awakening and exploring your desire to be your best is powerful and sustainable fuel for your creative energy. It is what drives you to live your purpose.
To be your best, you need to be as much as you are and nothing more. Always.
photo credit: Morgan Sessions
by Tara Joyce | Mar 27, 2015 | Cultural Creativity, Pay What It's Worth Pricing
Can you really know your value?
Is it a fixed thing?
Is it of value to quantify your worth?
These questions intrigue my mind.
To explore this curiosity, I developed a (business) practice of not setting prices. In this system of pricing, I place no limit on the value of my offerings, and instead I trust and guide my customers to fairly determine the value of what they’re receiving, and the price they pay for it.
In not setting a price on the value of my service, I’ve come to understand something powerful: the only real limits to your value are the ones you place on yourself.
Your value doesn’t have a limit, unless you choose for it to. It’s not a fixed thing; it changes, rises and falls, relationship-to-relationship, exchange-to-exchange, and it grows as you learn to value yourself more responsibly.
The heart of it is: your worth, and the value you place on it, sets your intentions for what you receive. You have the power to choose how limitless you truly are.
There is no need to fix or limit your value; rather there is a necessity for you to grow into your awareness of it and your boundaries around it. In my experience as you do you’ll find your world, and the value of it, grows graciously with you.
A version of this article was originally published on Fine Lines.
photo credit: Nicolas Raymond
by Tara Joyce | Mar 19, 2015 | Cultural Creativity, Self/Business Growth
You’re not going to make the difference for me: I am.
I’m not going to make the difference for you: you are.
You and I, can not and do not need to save anyone from anything.
However ardently you believe that I would be happier and more satisfied following your lead, you must resist the temptation to try to change me. You can not heal me. Only I can. There is a reason for where I am right now, and how you feel I “should” be or “could” be is not really relevant, helpful nor right.
No matter the richness of the life you’ve built, you are still not qualified to speak on behalf of the/my greater source. No matter what you feel you know, nor what I feel you know, you do not know better. What you know will never surpass what you do not know. Your understanding of my life must always be limited.
It is a disservice to me, and to you, to make assumptions about my intentions, preferences, and goals. Respect my right to be myself. If you find yourself feeling that you need to change me and save me, if you’re feeling that perhaps you know better, it’s an opportunity to look at what needs healing within. How can you really know better? What are you overcompensating for?
Just as my life is about healing and wholing myself, so too is yours. We both have the right to do so, at our own pace, without interference. In doing your own work, and allowing me to do mine, you’re making all the difference. For your changing the one person you actually can: you.
photo credit: wackystuff
by Tara Joyce | Mar 11, 2015 | Cultural Creativity, My Journey | What's On My Mind, Self/Business Growth
Are there things in your life that feel heavy and “work”-like?
For me, dinner has long felt like a task that really weighed me down. I didn’t like how it needed to be planned, I didn’t like how long it took to make, I didn’t like how short it took to eat, and I didn’t like how I didn’t appreciate how it tasted once I’d cooked it. The action was wholly undesirable to me. Yet I had to eat — and so did my family. What was I to do? I needed to find a way to enjoy the process of the action — the beginning, middle, and end — not just getting to the end, and the results it would bring.
To grow in my enjoyment of my heavy task, I began paying attention to the places in my life where I was able to “play” and enjoy the process of an action, and I paid attention to the places where I was not able to do this. I began noticing if I made time to “play” each day in those spaces that felt good, it supported me in bringing more play into the places that feel more heavy, serious and “work”-like. By contrasting my feelings of “play” and of “work”, I found myself with more space to “play” in the heavy stuff and the lighter it became.
This leads me to connect the “work” of making dinner to the “work” of business ownership; no matter what may feel like “work” in your life, there is immense support available to you through learning about the value of lightness, and how efficient it is in getting stuff done.
photo credit: Anant Nath Sharma
language inspired by Lama Marut’s “Be Nobody”
